Movie Clip Stirs Debate over Black Relationships
16 Jun
One of my friends sent me a link to this NPR piece on the video clip that making its way into inboxes everywhere. (The clip depicts an angry black ex-wife with her instigator friends awaiting the arrival of her black ex-husband to pick up their child for visitation. The ex-husband shows up with his white girlfriend (or wife, I don’t remember). The ex-wife and her friends berate the ex-husband about his white girlfriend. The husband responds by saying that neither of his ex-wife’s friends have a mate because of their anger. They call him a weak “black man” and he says that he is a “tired black man.” blah blah blah)
I read and listened to the NPR piece as well as the interview clips. I think Tim Alexander needs to find out why he’s attracted to angry women. If one keeps ending up in the same kinds of situations, he should ask himself how he is contributing to it. My speculation is that he has a rescue complex. He wants to come in and rescue these women from all of their past hurts and it doesn’t work that way. There are plenty of non-angry women out there. A simple rule he could use is “If they have baggage, leave them alone. If they love drama, leave them alone.”
The guy that said “When we come home, we don’t need that loud-mouthed, self-sufficient, independent macho woman disagreeing with everything we say. We need kind women.” has a problem. I don’t think the movie is reflecting what this guy is talking about. He seems to have self-esteem issues. I think any woman that disagreed with him would fit in that category.
I agree with what the lady said about living stereotypes. If we (men or women) believe the stereotypes we will go out of our way to make them real. Treat people like individuals and we probably wouldn’t have this mess.
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